Practice, focus, worry about yourself, be patient, control your mind.
I remember a time when I used to be deceived by people’s judgements. All it would take is one nasty comment or negative feedback to change my mood and get me upset; however, these reactions started to vanish with years and honestly I don’t care about people’s opinions or expectations anymore.
Somehow through many ups and down I understood that these negative comments on Social Media and negative feedbacks in Real Life that people feel free to express even without me asking, are residue of lack of self-esteem and confidence from there part and has nothing to do with me.
We always expect integrity from our entourage, but there is a big difference between being honest and being negative.
Here is how I stopped giving a damn
Stop Giving a F*ck
In the context of everything, whatever the opinion or problem is, it doesn’t matter. You’re doing the best you can. Most of this negativity comes from people who are hating life and get relieved when seeing someone suffering and sad so they can feel good about themselves. Always remember that a nasty comment or message are coming from a person hiding behind a computer or a phone and will never be able to express himself in person. Negativity will never come out of a person who really loves you and wish you happiness. There are million of nice ways to give an advice without being rude and heartless. SO stop giving a damn about these judgements and start taking control of your own self satisfaction and be confident of how you look and live and start worrying about what really maters.
Don’t Read the Comments Section
The second step is this: don’t read the comments don’t listen to the nasty criticism. I used to worry about the comments section of my blog or social media posts that sometimes make me sick. People can be cruel and they forget to filter what they say.
You don’t have to read the opinions. You can ignore the feedback and set your own standards for the feedback you pay attention to. Make sure that the people you listen to are worthy and can help you becoming a better version of yourself, not bring you down with critics they pretend to know so much when they have not really done the thing they are critiquing.
Take Everything Lightly
Don’t be so easily thrown off your game. Perspective is a great way to calm down your emotions. Everything we watch, read or hear is meant to makes us react. It takes a lot of energy and hard work to maintain your reputation and create a healthy environment around you. Don’t let people suck this energy. Instead take things lightly and focus on your life and put up your efforts and focus to be creative and productive.
You’re Doing the Best You Can
I know opinions might be a little hard to ignore, but the truth is you’re doing the best you can! You’re trying. Worry about your effort, not about the opinions.
Keep going. Do what you LOVE and you are PASSIONATE about. You might not be the best writer or painter or architect … but keep trying you don’t have to be the best, just be YOURSELF the best version of YOURSELF, a happy one.
People always give false first impressions, and many human being we encounter love to hate. So keep working on yourself, training and learning are your best weapons. Improve your skills and get help if you feel you need one. Don’t be ashamed to admit if you have questions or doubts. Just make sure to ask the right person.
It’s better to put your work out into the world than spend your entire life wondering how you’ll be perceived. Perceptions change as your life does.
Get better and you’ll find the critic’s opinions turn into appreciation.